Know he's going to pop the big question soon, but don't know how to tell him what you like or want for your finger?
Women find it difficult sometimes to be blunt about what sort of ring and rock style they want to their partner, it can feel like we're pressuring or that we might be ruining the surprise. But how will you man know what you want if you don't tell him?
Being open in your relationship and discussing the future is something that needs to be done. Find out what he's comfortable talking about and don't be afraid to test the waters. Start the conversation in a calm setting and make sure you don't come off as demanding. You simply want to know what he thinks of the idea. A great way to start the conversation is to ask him what he wants in the future, men prefer that you either graduate into the conversation or you are blunt about it. To be subtle, go out for dinner or plan a nice evening at home to set the mood right and ask him detailed questions about himself and gradually get to the question "Tell me about what you want in the future" or "What are short term and long term goals?". If you prefer to ask him bluntly, blurt out "Have you thought about marriage?", assuming you know him well info he wont hit the ground running. A lot of the time men don't feel awkward talking about marriage, as long as you don't over-do it. TIP: Make sure that if you guys directly talk about marriage, get his timeline in a gentle way like "When do you see yourself getting married" again, assuming that you both love each other very much and that's why this topic is being brought up.
Whenever asking him for the first time about his thought on marriage, it's best to know where both your boundaries stand on talking about it. You can always ask something like, "Do you like talking about it?" or usually you can see it in there eyes and facial expression, or how they talk about it.
Once you have had the conversation about marriage and know where you both stand, months maybe years have passed by, you will start to see signs. I cannot tell you what those signs are because men are all different in their own ways. When you start to see signs, the topic may be brought up again and that's your perfect chance to add in what you want and like.
TIP: When you start seeing little signs it's best you hope onto the computer and start looking at what you like.
I was asked if I liked something in particular that we had seen on TV (Giant rock), I was speechless, not because I got my first hint but because I had no clue what I liked. I know, seems impossible for a Wedding Planner who looks at everything Bridal all day long. I came to the conclusion that I didn't care what he got me, because it was something he had picked up from what he knows about me. After that conversation, I started to think "Oh my goodness, the moment is so close, I can't wait! When? How?....." Then I stopped my self with another question "...How much?!" I was stumped! I'm the type of person who gets stuck in isle 5 looking at which pickles would be most cost savvy but which ones will taste better, BUT which ones are bigger....
My man is more quiet about the topic and I know where his heart lies, however I over talk about things and that was one topic I had over talked about. How would I let him know that I wanted him to spend X amount or less? SO! Here are some ideas that I pondered:
1. Find a jewelry catalog and circle all of the price perfect rings I saw and leave it on the floor.
2. Talk about how expensive certain things are.
Now I didn't forget that I'm a Wedding Planner and I sometimes use that excuse to ask him questions, so I have revised this next one for you...
3. Talk about you FRIENDS engagement ring and say " Hers was X amount, I would never buy jewelry that was more than X"
I found that the best way, Wedding Planner or not, is to simply want to know more about something. I asked questions like "What is traditional? How do they normally choose that? What is normally spent on this?" I asked him in a way that he did not feel like I was bothering HIM about the topic. They were questions I just wanted answers to for my knowledge.
